People say that you have what it takes, that you got the brains, the looks, the skill and all the ingredients you need to be successful at what you do. We are, in the end a sum of all our experiences and when we grow, certain behaviors develop. We react to each situation in a unique way because we are unique individuals, so when we often feel that we have free will, the truth is that, we sometimes get trapped by the way we react to certain situations, we are trapped by are automatic reaction to certain stimuli. When these reactions are overwhelmingly negative, we call them selfdefeating behaviors or SDB. SDB is defined as “Those that engage in a cycle of failures in attempts to fulfill something they want. It can be a need for intimacy, affiliation, control, or acceptance which results in mental health difficulties which can include depression, social isolation, and anxiety.”
Without trying to sound too academic SDB is about setting yourself up for failure with or without your own knowledge. You might ask yourself “Why do I do this? Is there something wrong with me?” Well to keep things short and sweet, you were wired that way; something in your past has caused you to react to certain situations the way you do. You need to rewire yourself to get rid of all this negative behavior.
