This is a fun-filled, light-hearted guide on how to get a good date by understanding yourself as well as understanding how your date will behave based on his or her personality type! As you might know, there are many variations of teachings regarding the personality quadrants out there all written by psychologists and experts in the field. This book is not a manual to self-enlightenment. The information here covers two main points: • Understand which personality quadrant you fall into • Understand how to deal with your date or the person you want to date When I first started dating, I didn’t know how to react to her – the object of my affections. I had no experience because I never went on a date before, and I thought that the way to win over my date’s affections was to please her. It sounded like a fantastic idea, but I made a big mistake: I saw her through the filter of my own personality quadrant and I made assumptions that what I like and what I need is what she likes and what she needs! What happened afterwards was one disaster after another because I kept doing the things she didn’t like which I thought would be something which I did like. I learnt that I needed to adjust the way I communicate. Unfortunately, things got so bad that we broke up but the lesson taught me how to deal with people better from then on. Enough about me! Let’s move on to the juicy stuff now. Personality Quadrants’ Dating Guide “Mastering Dating Skills by Understanding the Way Your Date Behaves” Personality Quadrants’ Dating Guide 6 The Secret to Success and Happiness Different people have different definitions about success and happiness. But the one BIG factor to that lies here: OTHER PEOPLE. You see, consider the fact that other people are: • Quite similar to others in the ways they are • Like no one else – unique! • More like some people more than the others Most self-improvement books and research actually show that men and women typically fall into one of four unique groups. As a matter of fact, those people tend to react in a rather predictable way when faced with circumstances and situations. Each of these styles, which I will go into in the later chapter, has its own strengths and weaknesses. Although it is important to realize that no style is superior or inferior to others, we must take note of the fact that the other 75% of the people we encounter reacts differently from us.
If your date happens to be from a different quadrant, you have to adapt your communication style to match him or her if you want to please your date. You do not need to go into a personality overhaul if you do not like something about yourself. The key point to remember is people who find success and happiness, are those who are flexible enough to relate to others through modifying their own predominant interpersonal style to meet the needs of others who have a different predominant style.
